Psychological test to determine an excessive guilt
In the previous article, we wrote about how not to stop living in times of war, we touched on the issue of the possible presence of a feeling of excessive guilt. In this material, we offer a test that will help you understand yourself.
You need to determine if the statements below apply to your personality and your life. The answer is “Yes” or “No”.
- If I have made a mistake(s), I blame myself for it, even if it did not lead to disadvantageous consequences.
- I often do not do what is pleasing to myself(s), but what others want me to do.
- I feel like a disgusted person when I am angry with my children, parents, or loved ones.
- I am afraid of hurting another person’s feelings if I deny them the sympathy or understanding they expect.
- If the other person hopes to meet with me, I find it very difficult to tell them I have my own plans (i.e., to say no).
- I care a lot about the people I love, even if they are doing well.
- I usually have a hard time telling people “no” if I am able to do what they want me to do.
- I feel obligated to do good deeds.
- I have a hard time understanding that people bear resentment against me.
- If my child, husband or loved ones have a problem and do not solve it, I take it upon myself to solve their problems for the common good.
- I am afraid of loneliness.
- If a person criticizes me, I usually internally agree with that criticism.
- My parents gave me life, I am indebted to them for that.
- I worry for a long time if I have not managed to cope with a task in the promised time.
- I often remember the old mistakes and feel painfully guilty about it.
- If something bad happens in my family, I get angry at myself for not having foreseen it.
- I think life is punishing me for the bad things I have done before.
- I tend to become somewhat embarrassed after important achievements.
- I feel guilty when I do not love my parents or other relatives.
- If something bad happens to me, I think I deserve it.
- Having made a mistake, I begin to feel disappointed, depressed.
- I am unable to keep a good mood when I see beggars and homeless people.
- Being away from home for a long period of time, I become anxious.
- I sympathize with people who are less happy or successful than me.
- I am uncomfortable to talk about my achievements in a company of people.
The answer “Yes” is 1 point.
The answer “No” is 0 point.
You need to get the sum of the points of your answers.
Interpretation of results:
Chances are your guilt is helpful and helps you live more than it hinders you. You know how to separate your own and others’ responsibilities and not wear yourself out with excessive guilt.
Your feelings of guilt are not always helpful for you. Sometimes you take on a lot of responsibility by doing things for which you do not have the resources. You do not always distinguish correctly between your own responsibility and someone else’s. Your loved ones sometimes take advantage of you because you find it hard to refuse when you are asked for help. There are times when you take a long time to get over your mistakes.
Your responsibility for others is excessive. It causes an unnecessary weight of guilt. You have difficulty separating your own and others’ responsibilities. You undertake too much on yourself. You feel that if you can do something, you are obliged to do it. You solve others’ problems for them and drain your life resources. You find it difficult to do otherwise because guilt makes you do it.
You are trapped in “excessive guilt” for other people’s responsibility. Most of what you do and care about is not your responsibility. But you find it hard to believe this, what is more, to give it up, because you are used to self-sacrifice. This habit can lead to emotional burnout.
Important! This questionnaire is useful only for familiarization. It is not a diagnostic tool, and its results are not intended for making a diagnosis and are not an indication for treatment.